sex, money, and miscellany: talking about what matters


In Uncategorized on October 16, 2009 at 5:57 am

I went to dinner at a friend’s house the other night and came home with an earworm–a song that was so stuck in my head as to be irritating. I’m used to them–there were years of my life when I was never without a silent soundtrack–but I can’t say I like them any better for the familiarity.

At least I know how to get rid of them.

It’s not complicated to clear them, but it takes some work. You have to listen to (preferably sing) the song all the way through, from the first chord to the last fadeout. Pay complete attention. Do not be distracted. For particularly sticky ones you may have to actually learn the song. And then go on to something else, some new piece of music. But the all-the-way through part is key.

That’s how life works, too. When you’re stuck, when you can’t stop telling yourself something, some story, some unhelpful thing that’s on repeat, listen all the way through. Even the hard parts. But only do it while it serves you. When it stops serving you, move on. Think something else instead. Nature hates a vacuum, and will fill it one way or the other. If you don’t want the old stuff in there, pick something new and keep moving. Is it harder than it sounds? Sometimes. Is it worth the effort? Absolutely.

And it’s totally up to you. How long are you willing to tell yourself that you’re no good at this, can’t accomplish that, will always struggle for money, can’t find a boyfriend, will never live your dreams? When you’re ready to change, when you’re really ready to acknowledge that the change starts with you (and not with the horrible awful people who do these things to you) then nothing can stop you.

What will you change?

  1. I TOLD you it was a great song! My current earworm? “This little light of mine” All things considered, it’s less awkward to find yourself humming in the grocery check-out than “Eight Miles Wide.”

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