sex, money, and miscellany: talking about what matters

support Scarleteen!

In Uncategorized on December 4, 2009 at 4:33 pm

Scarleteen is the best. Hands down. It’s the website where I send everyone (everyone) who has sexuality questions that I can’t answer. Better yet, it’s targeted at youth – teens – who need the information now, fast, anonymously, and in detail. Complete detail. Scarleteen delivers with a level of dedication and freedom from judgment I have only seen in church (no, really! Check out the link). They are not-for-profit (although to get a tax deduction receipt for your donation you have to go through the Center For Sex and Culture), administered and run by Heather Corinna, a fantastic artist and outspoken blogger who has a crazy level of dedication to sexuality education for young people. Her values come through in Scarleteen, which means equality, transparency, and access are foremost concerns. She has done a fabulous job of making it work on a shoestring, but the shoestrings have got to get longer. The volume of requests for information keeps going up, the volunteers come through, but it takes money to run a website. Please, please, please, if you can, go there and make a donation. They have some fantastic gifts for donors, but the best gift is knowing that you helped get the word out to the youth who need it most.

Go. Please. Now. And bring your friends. And spread the word. Heather and her crew need to feel the love. Use your money to bring your values to life. Donate now.

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  1. “It’s the website where I send everyone (everyone) who has sexuality questions that I can’t answer.”

    Do you supply them with your answers or help them find their own? And what if there are questions that individuals simply have to become comfortable with, that may not actually have an answer.

    I would give them love if I could, too much to take care of myself but I’ll share the website for anyone who is in need of resources.

  2. “Do you supply them with your answers or help them find their own? ”

    Yes. Depends on the question. Some questions, like “Can you get pregnant if you have sex without using birth control,” have answers. Some questions, like “Am I ready to become sexually active,” require more discernment-y, conversational responses. Some questions don’t really have answers at all.

  3. “Some questions, like “Am I ready to become sexually active,” require more discernment-y, conversational responses.”

    Right. But, would you give an answer ultimately or leave the answer to them? And readiness is an interesting issue that gets a lot of push from different sources, in the big picture society, and in the small, dating and relationships. Is it “ready” or “not”? Is it either or, or a scale? How about ready with reservations? Or ready, but a person won’t put out on a second date, maybe not a third, or forth, but a fifth? Maybe a fifth will be it. Maybe it’s ready, but waiting for the right time. And alternately, what if the question isn’t am I ready, because if readiness is a scale and if it’s getting to know a person and doesn’t have a stitch to do about readiness, “What to do if someone doesn’t want to wait?”

    Because readiness gets a lot of pressure from outside sources, and singular readiness needs to be addressed with those pressures.

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