sex, money, and miscellany: talking about what matters

change making, change breaking

In Uncategorized on May 17, 2010 at 9:35 am

Change is hard for humans. We just don’t like it. We like routine, we like familiar, we like predictable. We’re hard-wired for it. But change, adaptivity, evolution are how we got to be human in the first place, and they are also how we stay human. Paradoxically, we stay ourselves only by continuing to change.

Sharon Welch, one of the administrators at my alma mater, discusses here at Tikkun’s website the patterns of change and why pretending it’s easy doesn’t work. When we take on change, we have to take it all on, with good will and good hearts and an awful lot of stubbornness, or we’re not going to make it all the way through. Consider the graph 2/3 of the way down the article. If we expect change to look smooth, we will fail and stop, instead of failing as part of the success we crave.

  1. And, once again, I bring out my favorite quote.

    The more I study history
    the most I seem to find
    that in every generation
    there are times
    just like that time
    when folks like you and me
    who thought that we were all alone
    within this honored movement
    found a home

    My g-d that is a multipurpose quote.

    I seriously love it, though. It reminds me that, hello, this is NOT the first time things have been difficult. This is not the first time that large changes have been needed and, in the past, those changes have happened. That this movement I am a part of, whether it be the LGBT movement or, more specifically, the trans movement or the immigration reform movement or the radical vulnerable masculinity movement… whatever! These movements require large societal change and that large societal change will be hard and crappy and bad things will happen during it. But Change kind of sucks, at almost every level. Big giant societal change making involves both kicking ass and getting one’s ass kicked.

    It’s awesome. and I hate it.

  2. Amen and amen. The bigger the change, the bigger the resistance, the bigger the need (usually). And whose quote is that? it is indeed fabulous.

  3. Si Kahn. Abigail and I were presenting a workshop once in a classroom and the teacher had all these posters with amazing quotes hanging everywhere. That was our favorite.

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