sex, money, and miscellany: talking about what matters


In Uncategorized on June 17, 2010 at 1:06 pm

Twitter has become my new favorite place to find links worth reading. By this and by that, I ran across the blog of one Melanie Ward who writes this:

One of my favorite teachers Stephan Bodian said, “The danger of investing your energy in seeking is that you’ll end up a perpetual seeker, without ever finding what you were looking for in the first place.”

Wondering how that plugs into UUism, personal growth work, financial stress, anything where the journey’s familiarity can be more comfortable than ending it and starting anew. Just wondering.

  1. To quote Peter Mayer, “God is a river, not just a stone.” Most of the time when we think we’ve found what we were looking for, we later realize the journey was not necessarily “more comfortable” (often it’s less so!), it was the real destination all along; what we thought was a destination was just a milepost, or better yet, a traveling companion. To my mind, realizing that the journey is the destination is not a “danger,” it’s a crucial step to finding happiness in a universe where change is the only constant.

    As a formerly footloose traveler who only recently settled down, I was really moved by Shrek: Forever After‘s thoughtful-yet-accessible treatment of midlife crises and journey vs. destination. If you haven’t seen it yet, I recommend it, and go with your life-coach goggles on (as well as 3-D glasses where available).

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