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not guilty

In Uncategorized on February 27, 2011 at 2:13 pm

We’re supposed to be productive.
We’re supposed to be motivated.
We’re supposed to do at least as much as we can, all the time.

Didn’t you get the memo?

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at least this

In Uncategorized on November 1, 2010 at 9:08 am

breakfast, hot,
in quarters;
hot sauce;
bell pepper on the side.

at least sun;
at least kitten;
at least beginning
there are always beginnings
one falling into the next
at least this.

how not to make things worse

In Uncategorized on August 15, 2010 at 5:31 pm

I’ve said this a lot, but this blogger says it better. So go here. Read up. Uppity Brown Woman knows her shit.


In Uncategorized on August 14, 2010 at 12:01 pm

I don’t need four letter words
to tell a story that leaves you weak and
wet and wanting
I don’t need profanity to tell the stories of love
or even of lust
I don’t need sex to talk about sex
all I need is an imagination
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back to bodies

In Uncategorized on July 21, 2010 at 5:47 pm

We begin in our bodies. From day one, we occupy a package that is ours, alone.

And from day two or three or seven we are busy learning how to be elsewhere. We move, we talk, cry, listen, see, touch, bring our edges into contact with the world around us. We cast ourselves into others, learn sympathy, empathy, pain, and joy.

Each step away leads us further from direct contact with ourselves. The world gets more complicated by the day. Decisions have to account for everyone. Others’ pleasures become important–as important or more important than our own.

Over years, we might read more

ten tips for a relaxing summer

In Uncategorized on July 19, 2010 at 5:33 pm

We’re halfway there! Summer is half over. If we run from June to August, July 15 (is that the ides of July?) is the tipping point.

Does that make you feel better, or more frenzied than ever?

When I was in school, summer was relaxing. The whole point read more

not ready

In Uncategorized on July 8, 2010 at 12:18 pm

Here’s an awesome post about helping the people who are ready to be helped, and not spinning your wheels with the ones who don’t. Now church is NOT a for-profit enterprise, but I think there are some lessons here for communities of faith and other nonprofits. What think you?


In Uncategorized on July 7, 2010 at 12:29 pm

I love xkcd, the stick-figure online comic for geeks. Here’s one to start a conversation. Now the question is, what rules would YOU make? If, you know, you were trying to make it simple?

sex for everyone

In Uncategorized on July 4, 2010 at 5:59 am

Check it out! The AARP’s media expert on sex and intimacy, Dr. Dorrree Lynn, came to Camden and gave a talk which (according to the Bangor Daily News) seems to have been well received. Her subject? Sex over 50 is GOOD.



In Uncategorized on June 24, 2010 at 2:55 pm

So there’s an impolite conversation that I have not made a regular or explicit part of this blog, partly because it is well-done elsewhere, partly because I’m covering stuff that I feel compelled to write about, but I feel like it needs mentioning. Bodies/size/acceptance, especially for women, is a huge and unmentionable issue in our culture. People like Stacy Bias have done a world of good for exposing the shaming, body-negative stuff around weight loss in the US; I wanted to mention here that Elizabeth Tamny read more