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Posts Tagged ‘community’

how not to make things worse

In Uncategorized on August 15, 2010 at 5:31 pm

I’ve said this a lot, but this blogger says it better. So go here. Read up. Uppity Brown Woman knows her shit.


ten tips for a relaxing summer

In Uncategorized on July 19, 2010 at 5:33 pm

We’re halfway there! Summer is half over. If we run from June to August, July 15 (is that the ides of July?) is the tipping point.

Does that make you feel better, or more frenzied than ever?

When I was in school, summer was relaxing. The whole point read more


In Uncategorized on July 7, 2010 at 12:29 pm

I love xkcd, the stick-figure online comic for geeks. Here’s one to start a conversation. Now the question is, what rules would YOU make? If, you know, you were trying to make it simple?

DO I have a thing?

In Uncategorized on June 23, 2010 at 1:15 pm

So I went to that conference about adaptive and transformational leadership. It was at The Mountain, which is one of the most beautiful of our conference centers. I actually don’t think we HAVE an ugly one, but The Mountain has views of the Smokies that will blow you away. (Note to self: start a page with institutions and companies I love. Put The Mountain on it. ETA: that page is created. It is here.) Anyway, the conference. Was mind blowing. And dense. Part of why I haven’t written about it is that trying read more

there are no words

In Uncategorized on June 23, 2010 at 12:06 pm

make yourself uncomfortable

In Uncategorized on June 21, 2010 at 4:20 pm

A while back I mentioned a conference in passing. I’m still digesting it. Here’s a bite of the good stuff:

We all have the opportunity to learn and grow, pretty much all the time. Most of the time, we ignore it. That’s right, we just walk away. It’s complicated and challenging to grow. It can be painful, it can make us look at stuff we don’t want to see, it can ask of us things that are hard. Humans don’t tend to like hard. We like easy. We like comfy. We like pleasure.

And that, dear readers, is where you can turn it around. read more

Millennialism: not just for millennials

In Uncategorized on June 4, 2010 at 8:14 am

We have a tradition in this country of dividing things up by age. We go to school by age unless we’re Montessori or home schooled, we shape our lives by where we’re supposed to be, we do things in order…

or we used to. Word on the street is that the millennial generation–those born 1978ish through 1998 and just now coming to power–isn’t waiting. read more

spoken relations

In Uncategorized on June 2, 2010 at 11:02 am

We writers
are all cousins,
Shakespeare and Ayn Rand and Def Leppard’s lyricist
beating out the same rhythms over ages
the same language hammered into the same dips and strides of hips
lungs and sinews calling
for one
for one read more

mixing it up

In Uncategorized on May 30, 2010 at 2:42 pm

I’ve been out of town at a conference on leadership. It was fabulous. I think every single congregational leader should learn what we learned. More on that after I’ve digested it. But meanwhile, Tandi Koerger has done it again, talking about a way to break the cliques of old and new members. It’s not just about churches, of course. Almost anyplace where you have a gap, it can be closed. Go check it out at her blog, Putting Religious Education in its Place.

giving as a business practice

In Uncategorized on May 21, 2010 at 7:15 pm

I’ve been mulling over businesses and structures and marketing and money lately. A lot. It happens. It happens double (or triple) when I decide to stop dallying and pay some attention to my business, or to the comings and goings of money in institutions, or to our cultural pushme-pullyou with finance.

And as part of my considering and mulling, I have been reading Mark’s writings over at Heart of Business more closely than usual. Why? Well, because he links spirituality and money. Because he has a theory of doing business that makes me feel warm and excited rather than sick to my stomach. Because he comes highly recommended. And because I like his style.

Recently he published read more