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Posts Tagged ‘risk’

how not to make things worse

In Uncategorized on August 15, 2010 at 5:31 pm

I’ve said this a lot, but this blogger says it better. So go here. Read up. Uppity Brown Woman knows her shit.



In Uncategorized on August 14, 2010 at 12:01 pm

I don’t need four letter words
to tell a story that leaves you weak and
wet and wanting
I don’t need profanity to tell the stories of love
or even of lust
I don’t need sex to talk about sex
all I need is an imagination
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In Uncategorized on July 7, 2010 at 12:29 pm

I love xkcd, the stick-figure online comic for geeks. Here’s one to start a conversation. Now the question is, what rules would YOU make? If, you know, you were trying to make it simple?


In Uncategorized on June 24, 2010 at 2:55 pm

So there’s an impolite conversation that I have not made a regular or explicit part of this blog, partly because it is well-done elsewhere, partly because I’m covering stuff that I feel compelled to write about, but I feel like it needs mentioning. Bodies/size/acceptance, especially for women, is a huge and unmentionable issue in our culture. People like Stacy Bias have done a world of good for exposing the shaming, body-negative stuff around weight loss in the US; I wanted to mention here that Elizabeth Tamny read more

there are no words

In Uncategorized on June 23, 2010 at 12:06 pm

make yourself uncomfortable

In Uncategorized on June 21, 2010 at 4:20 pm

A while back I mentioned a conference in passing. I’m still digesting it. Here’s a bite of the good stuff:

We all have the opportunity to learn and grow, pretty much all the time. Most of the time, we ignore it. That’s right, we just walk away. It’s complicated and challenging to grow. It can be painful, it can make us look at stuff we don’t want to see, it can ask of us things that are hard. Humans don’t tend to like hard. We like easy. We like comfy. We like pleasure.

And that, dear readers, is where you can turn it around. read more

writers hate criticism

In Uncategorized on May 16, 2010 at 3:13 pm

…but we rarely get better without it–as long as it’s constructive. There’s an interesting email exchange between a tech columnist and Steve Jobs over at about the iPad and freedom from porn(!) but what caught my attention was this quote, from the comments:

It is not the critic who counts; read more

a little like stealing your diary

In Uncategorized on May 16, 2010 at 10:28 am

Facebook is doing more and more with user data, and according to this writer at Gizmodo, trying to be as un-transparent about it as possible. Big brothers shouldn’t do stuff like that.

nerve endings (for heather)

In Uncategorized on May 9, 2010 at 5:43 pm

we’re swimming in sensation
air on our skin
breath in our lungs
moss and pavement and socks and sand underfoot
and we,
caught in the middle,
held in place by gravity,
and sheer determination,
and it’s a party in our brains
all the seeing smelling touching tasting hearing gets together
and builds a picture of the world we live in
the world that kills us and pleasures us,
every kiss,
every morsel of chocolate,
every blow to the psyche,
every fist to the gut,
every crushing of spirit,
every inch of summer in fresh-cut grass and hot tar,
every long day of winter,
icicles and numb fingertips,
and what makes it sexy
or unendurably hard
is what we think of it,
what we imagine,
what world we place it in.
People do the impossible every day
for people that they love,
and people get turned on every day,
by things they never noticed before
(that perfume that your girlfriend
wore the first day of spring with the dress that
brushed her calves like summer)
(the curve of his hip that matches
the curve of his smile)
(the taste of skin and sweat and motor oil)
it’s about the story
it’s about the context
it’s about the world
and the place where our bodies meet the world
where we become the world
and the world
becomes us.

anti-anti-racism unpacked

In Uncategorized on April 29, 2010 at 8:04 am

I need to eat breakfast, so this is a very quick post, but I had to share. Over at racialicious they’ve posted a fantastic piece on racism/privilege/oppression. Of special interest to me were these two passages:

“Anti-racism and people of colour organizing is -read more>